Do you conisder yourself a lover?

To clarify some things about love first we need to know that there is something that we "call" love and pure love
Johnny depp: "The only creatures that are evolved enough to convey pure love are dogs and infants."
well its not completely same as what i think about love but
mostly in our lives things that shape our so-called love are loneliness,sexual desire,longing for someone who understands us,simply habit and dependancy on a person...being self-righteous,self centered and selfish
and as you may see....we can find some people who can fulfil these needs time to time...its just the matter of "who came first"
now here's the difference between fake and real love apearing out of the fog we made of idols,movies and fanatsies....same old story about the prince/princess of your dreamland who you are or were waiting for
the most (and not totally) proper image of love that we can find is in the traditional literature and art.....according to those portraits:
if you miss someone in their absence you're NOT neccerily a lover
if you love to spend time with someone you're NOT neccerily a lover
if you just get sad from losing a loved one you're NOT a lover at all
if you don't want someone to leave you you're NOT neccerily a lover
if you marry,have kids,and live with them for a long time you're NOT neccerily their lover
Why?
well if you had the courage to read this and think about every word deeply...
then probably you have your answer:
how many people said "honey,i missed you" ," baby,i love you so much" and then what happened? a very little catalyzer like there's someone better than their ex-from now on. ...in fame,in bed,has more money,is more attractive....breaks their link like these terms and feelings never existed...and new ones are born : "I never want to see you again" ," Leave me alone, I f***ing hate you"
again you are with a new ex to be....and it happens over and over again...to be optimistic..until marrige and when you're married you're too tired to play these games once again so you live with someone you hate and traumatize everything around you. how many people stay loyal to their lost love?
and now you don't want your love to leave you .why?
just because you are dependent and selfish.
you keep whining about their leaving because you still don't know what to do without them...and even if this leaving relieves them from a load of misery you'll still want them to stay....because you're selfish!
take a look around ,can you see:
parent getting divorced....passing their children in between
wives and husbands getting a week or two married after losing their spouse
mothers and fathers neglecting their children...leaving their soul to rot
priests who rape children
youth who insult and hit their parents
and the list will go on...even without counting the murders and massacres and tortures ......
I saw a 3 month infant from rich family in a hospital.....looking like 20 days old just skin and bone....and her mother and father didn't want to see her
because she had 6 fingers on her hand and a tumor in her stomach....left her crying her eyeballs out until her tears went dry.....eventually she is now in a hospital...under a life support.....
NOW...please someone stand up and give me a nice and delightful speech about love...about god....i'd appreciate that....just tell me "be optimistic"

because you're a lover if:
you're willing to give your life,wealth and fame for the sake of you loved one
you belive in your love and live and think like them
after losing them you can't live(im not talking about suicide,but dying from grief) and you can't even think of anyone else
and every pain with their presence is sweet to you just as every joy without them is poison and regret

if you are such person....things i wrote in this writ wasn't even close to your sacred world....i just envy you for you're life has a meaning
take your love...and run to a place far away from humanity
because in our modern rotten civilized disgusting rational world
your love is insanity